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This is a place where I will share my love of flowers, cooking and baking, gardening and fashion (shoes! lots of shoes!) I would love for you to stay a while and take a look and leave a comment if something catches your interest.
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Tuesday, 9 August 2011

Let them eat.....anything but cake

You know I love cake....really I love cake!  Sponge, red velvet, carrot (just to name a few) and oh the frosting MMM  But I know there are some of you out there don't share my gastrolove of cake but even so why should you be left out?

The first time I heard of anything other than a cake, or a cupcake cake, was when I worked on a wedding two years ago.  The bride loved pie (just as much as I love cake) and she figured why did she have to have a cake just because people thought she had....and you know what?  She was right!  She had cake plates of varying heights with individual blue berry and lemon meringue pies.
Magnolia Photographic
You love pie but want something that looks a little more like a traditional cake.....
Marburger Farm Events
I have no idea what these pies consist of but I would be willing to find out:)

My husband is French and a traditional cake for them is a croquembouche (translated to "crunch in the mouth")  They are little balls of pastry filled with cream and then, usually, spun sugar is draped all over it (really, it can't be wrong!)......this one from Martha Stewart is lovely!

Pretty sure your guests jaws would drop when they saw this!
Martha also featured this gorgeous ice cream cake (oh I love ice cream too! haha)  Now, it would have to make a sudden (and an elaborate entrance to match it's grandeur) but there is no way your guests wouldn't melt (come on you know I had to say it! LOL) when they saw it

Chef Florian Bellanger
Now, guess what...I love cheese cake too! (I know, hard to believe) so what about individual cheesecakes on a tower?

Lick the Spoon
NOW for the super adventurous, and those of us that can have a cheese plate for desert, there is a place just for you!  Norbiton Fine Cheese Co has some F-I-N-E lookin cheese!

Have you been to a wedding where they didn't have a traditional wedding cake?  What did you eat (or serve)?  Because "let them eat cake" is so last century!

Tuesday, 2 August 2011

Glorious Greens!

AHHH Glorious Greens.  You go with everything....I mean really! every colour of flower comes on a green stem and it works nature knew what she was doing when she came up with that idea.

Since stationery sets the tone of the wedding we'll start there AND look at this:
Creo Couture Cards
LOVING the satin box and invite and the gorgeous brown ribbon accent and who wouldn't <3 those buckle accents?
Too much for your wedding? what about this pretty little set?
And these are eco friendly too!!  how fantastic is that?

Green brides maid's dresses can be fun and flirty....
 Or classic and soft...

and for the bride what about some GORGEOUS Christian Louboutin Shoes.....

and you can't get married without some Elsa Corsi customized jewels 


You need a bouquet....so here is some beautiful green:)
White roses, freesia (that add some green with the buds) green berries and a collar of white cymbidium orchids

Standard & mini-cymbidium orchids, dendrobium orchids, tuber roses and tropical leaves

Cascade style bouquet of white phalaenopsis orchids and green cymbidium orchids
And speaking of orchids.....and linens and BREATH TAKING!
Wildflower Linen
Designed by  Carissa Jones-Jowett of JL DESIGNS
I think this cake is fantastic with it's shades of green......

Riser by Raise the Cake
If a green cake is not your thing what about a gorgeous, you need to check this site, customized cake riser?  With the moss green riser and the beautiful orchids this cake is classic and eye catching!

It was fun searching out everything green just to prove wrong the notion that sometimes "it's not easy being green"~sorry Kermit the frog:)

Tuesday, 26 July 2011

Have You Asked the Important Questions?

Last year, through the wonder of the net, I found this published in The New York Times.  Asking questions BEFORE you get married is important, IMPORTANT!  After 14 years of my own marriage I cannot stress it enough!  My husband and I come from Western European countries, we're both first generation Canadians and we have a few of the same goals but really it ends there.....and it has sometimes been bumpy trying to figure it all out....here are some great questions, with the writer's answers, that her priest asked in their marriage prep course.....

Before you book the Church, buy your dress and order the flowers make sure this is the right decision for you both
Father Mark was in seminary school back in 2006 and since then all his classmates have been using this as part of their pre-marital sessions… because it works! In our final session, Mr. Lobster and I went through every. single. one. It generated some very enlightening discussion. Here are a few of the more interesting ones and short versions of our answers:

Have we discussed whether or not to have children, and if the answer is yes, who is going to be the primary care giver?

While we have not explicitly discussed this we do both want children eventually. I assumed I’d be the primary caregiver but Mr. Lobster says he doesn’t mind being a stay-at-home dad.

Have we discussed our expectations for how the household will be maintained, and are we in agreement on who will manage the chores?

Since we have lived together for 2 years, we’ve definitely hashed out the chores over many (many) fights. Recently we splurged and hired a cleaning lady which… let’s face it… if you can manage the extra cost is so worth it if chores cause tension between you and your S.O.

Have we fully disclosed our health histories, both physical and mental?

Yes. This was an especially sensitive question for me since I know Mr. Lobster’s family has a history of heart disease.

Is my partner affectionate to the degree that I expect?

Yes and yes. Mr. Lobster may even be overly affectionate. :)

Will there be a television in the bedroom?

I want one. I really REALLY like TV. But Mr. Lobster has heard it’s bad for sleeping (so have I)… I still want one.

Do we truly listen to each other and fairly consider one another’s ideas and complaints?

This was one of those that generated some talk especially since I owned up to the fact that I didn’t think I considered Mr. Lobster’s ideas/complaints as much as I would like.

What does my family do that annoys you?

For me, this was a difficult question because nothing Mr. Lobster’s family does “annoys” me. We have quite a formal relationship… maybe just a difference in upbringing since my family is not… so formal. Case in point, Mr. L said that my mom asks ways too many questions sometimes to the point of inappropriateness. This is true.

Are there some things that you and I are NOT prepared to give up in the marriage?

This is where we’re supposed to answer, “my motorcycle, “my friends,” etc. but neither of us really knew what that would be for us but agreed that “alone time” (without each other) would be one of them.

Does each of us feel fully confident in the other’s commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges we may face?

Mr. Lobster simply said, “Yes.” Aww, my sweetie. I knew this would be a controversial question because I said “Yes, I believe we are both fully committed to the marriage but I cannot say I know 100% we can survive any challenge.” Mr. Lobster looked at me kinda shocked and said “What?” in a quiet tone. However, Father Mark was not at all surprised… he said we were not the first couple that answered the question like that (phew!). I didn’t want to be dishonest but I think it’s normal to be uncertain about some things.

Despite that surprise, we did end the session on a good note. Even though we haven’t explicitly discussed a lot of these questions, Mr. Lobster and I so far been on the same wavelength that we ended up agreeing on a lot of things. But we also walked away knowing which areas needed more thought and discussion.

Additionally there were racier questions about sex, religion, parental relationships, etc. that I didn’t include in this post. If you have a couple hours, it might be worth sitting down with your significant other to discuss some of these. Better to avoid the surprises now according to this other New York Times article.

Have you and your S.O. asked each other the tough questions? How do you think the discussion would go?
A fun little moment during a wedding I serviced a few years back
Like I mentioned earlier I've been doing this married thing for just over 14 years now so here are a couple of more questions that have come up at my house......

Who is paying for what?
Do you have a joint bank account?  separate? both?
How important is your religion?  Will you bring any children you may have in it?
What school do you hope to get your children into?
What kind of house/size of property do you want?
Where are you going to live?  How close should your in-laws be?  Will elderly in-laws move in with you?
What are your life long goals?  What are you both working towards?
Who is in charge of dinner and laundry?  (BIG ones at my house! haha)
What is the bride's last name going to be?  What about any children?
How will extended family conflicts (don't kid yourself-there will be something at some point) be handled?
What do you "expect" from the other in your marriage?

There are, what I call, the "non-negotiables" like whether or not to have children....you cannot force someone who does not want children to have them and you cannot deny someone who longs for them either....I've known many people to squash their desire and it comes back to haunt them later on.....everyone has these non-negotables and you need to know what yours are and really talk about them.

Me & Jean and our 2 1/2 year old on our wedding day-oh if we knew then what we know now we'd still have gotten married but would have talked a lot more!
I know there are a lot of couples that say "oh we live together it's all figured out" well the stats say differently.  Did you know that with a 50% divorce rate it's actually higher with people that lived together before they married?  You need to do the work too.....and just think all the hard stuff will be done and your marriage will be nothing but a "happily ever after"  (well, maybe not but at least you both know where you stand!) haha

What are your non-negotiables?  Was there a question you both discussed and you were surprised by the other person's answer?